What You Can Do

Compiled by College Sex Advice

If you feel confident that your girlfriend is faking orgasms, your course of action is determined by your motives: Are you more concerned about her dishonesty, or are you more concerned that she’s not fulfilled by your encounters?

People don’t like to be caught lying, so if you confront her, she will probably deny it and get defensive. And if you’re wrong, you run the risk of looking like an ass. On the other hand, if you just want to pick a fight with her, accusing her of faking is an excellent tactic.

If you don’t know for sure how to give a woman an orgasm, do a little homework and find out how to improve your technique. Most women (up to 70%) don’t come from intercourse alone, so you do need to have some other strategies at your disposal. Learn where her clit is and where her G-spot is. Brush up on fingering and cunnilingus.

If you’ve already got the basics down and you’ve had success in the past making other women climax, you need to find out what really works for her. This means taking your time, focusing on her body, and asking her to tell you and show you what feels good.

Set aside some time and dedicate it specifically to making her come, then use what you learn in your subsequent sessions. However, if you actually talk to her about it, you may find that she doesn’t care whether or not she comes during sex with you.

She may be satisfied getting off later with her vibrator. If that’s the case, she might as well drop the act for both your sakes.

Ultimately, you may never know for sure that she was faking it or why, unless she breaks down and confesses, or throws it in your face in the midst of an argument.

But if you suspect she is pulling an act in bed, use it as a challenge and an opportunity to experiment.

Switch up your sexual moves and see if you can give her a genuine toe-curler. That may convince her to get real with you.