Why Is She Faking It?

Compiled by College Sex Advice

This is not to let her off the hook, because lying and dishonesty can’t be condoned, especially in a relationship. And a woman has to take responsibility for her own pleasure in a sexual encounter and communicate to her partner if something isn’t working for her.

That said, if your girlfriend is faking it, there are a limited number of reasons:

• You don’t know how to make her come, but she wants you to think you’re a good lover anyway.

• She doesn’t really want sex, but she doesn’t know how to tell you, so she’s trying to get it over with.

• Whatever it is you’re doing to her, she wants you to stop it as soon as possible because a) it hurts, b) it’s annoying her, or c) she wants to go to sleep.

• She cannot come during sex with another person and is too embarrassed to admit it.

• She has never had an orgasm and is too embarrassed to admit it.

That last one is more common than you’d think. A surprising number of younger women have never come before and just do what they think they are supposed to do, usually based on what they’ve seen in movies, porn or otherwise.

Still, this is the exception rather than the rule. Chances are she is just not digging your groove and is trying to spare your feelings in one way or another.

It’s like when you tell her that she’s a great cook or her poetry is awesome, and then she keeps insisting on serving you overcooked steak and mushy vegetables or reading you her latest “piece.” It’s hard to back out of the lie once you’ve set the precedent.

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